You are feeling painful, difficult, and scary feelings.
\n\nI want you to close your eyes and see the emotion inside you and then take a deep breath and I want you to expand all the space around it.
\n\nBreathe in through nose and out through the mouth.
\nImagine that space growing with every breath.
So the emotion stays the same but you expand.
\n\nMake room for the emotion(s).
\nExpand.
You are not your emotions. You have emotions.
\nYou are vast.
\nYour spirit indestructible.
I know you don’t like these feelings, I don’t like these feelings too.
\n\nThey feel so painful and they feel they are breaking you, but if your heart is capable of feeling them, then you are strong enough to bear them.
\n\nSoften into the feeling.
\n\nYou can cry… sob… just keep softening with your breath…stay soft..
\n\nIt’s ok… let your heart break. I promise, it won’t break down.
\n\nThat’s the thing with hearts… the more the break… the bigger and stronger they get… the only way to a resilient heart is to let it feel and let it break.
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\n\nWhy self-love- you make the world a better place and free the people in your lives when you love yourself.
\n\nWhat is *not self-love (hint… it is not selfish)
\n\nWhat is self-love…as I see it, it has 5 aspects self-awareness, self-discipline, self-care, self-compassion, self-acceptance.
\n\nWhat you can do to cultivate love- cultivate self-awareness, be honest with yourself … for that you will need to learn self-soothing, and be compassionate with yourself… meaning hold your self to the highest standards but support yourself as you make mistakes along the way…
\n\nPs. Once… it’s a mistake … twice it’s a mistake… but 3 times it’s a pattern. If you keep making the same mistakes again and again… then you need to understand why and make efforts to change that.
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\n\nHow do I find my purpose?
\n\nWhy are relationships so confusing these days?
\n\nHow do I get rid of my anger?
\n\nHow do I get out of my comfort zone?
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\n\nIt can negatively impact the brain and nervous system.
\n\nBut you also have the power to heal the impact of trauma.
\n\nBody
\nEmotions
\nThoughts
All need to be part of the treatment and healing of trauma in the mind/body.
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\n\nThe skills needed for healthy adult relationships are cultivated in childhood… but even as adults you can start cultivating some of these skills if you struggle with relationships.
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\n\nIn this episode I talk about how something’s that we hear and see can really mess up our ideas about what a ‘perfect relationship’ is and what can we expect from a long-term relationship.
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","summary":"","date_published":"2023-07-26T09:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/d9d37297-ab7b-41f7-befc-cfbbe8d5ea8c.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":49780130,"duration_in_seconds":3111}]},{"id":"0b85da49-9a93-49a0-b679-626bd71244e2","title":"Episode 25: Thoughts For the Inner Journey","url":"https://dr-saliha-afridi.fireside.fm/25","content_text":"Healing journey / therapy journey/ inner work/ psychospiritual development / self-awareness …\n\nCall it what you want… here I share a few thoughts from having walked the path with people as well as walking my own path over the last 18 years…\n\nThings to keep in mind … what you may encounter on the path… what you may need to make the journey/experience safer …","content_html":"Healing journey / therapy journey/ inner work/ psychospiritual development / self-awareness …
\n\nCall it what you want… here I share a few thoughts from having walked the path with people as well as walking my own path over the last 18 years…
\n\nThings to keep in mind … what you may encounter on the path… what you may need to make the journey/experience safer …
","summary":"","date_published":"2023-07-19T09:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/0b85da49-9a93-49a0-b679-626bd71244e2.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":56343543,"duration_in_seconds":3521}]},{"id":"2c6fe220-17b0-4f7b-a57d-20c44f7fa96d","title":"Episode 24: What is 'self-love'?","url":"https://dr-saliha-afridi.fireside.fm/24","content_text":"One of the most complicated relationship we have is the relationship to ourselves and then we wonder why we struggle in our relationship to others…if we can’t even be with ourselves, how and why do we expect others to?\n\nWhy self-love- you make the world a better place and free the people in your lives when you love yourself.\n\nWhat is *not self-love (hint… it is not selfish)\n\nWhat is self-love…as I see it, it has 5 aspects self-awareness, self-discipline, self-care, self-compassion, self-acceptance\n\nWhat you can do to cultivate love- cultivate self-awareness, be honest with yourself … for that you will need to learn self-soothing, and be compassionate with yourself… meaning hold your self to the highest standards but support yourself as you make mistakes along the way…\n\nPs. Once… it’s a mistake … twice it’s a mistake… but 3 times it’s a pattern. If you keep making the same mistakes again and again… then you need to understand why and make efforts to change that.","content_html":"One of the most complicated relationship we have is the relationship to ourselves and then we wonder why we struggle in our relationship to others…if we can’t even be with ourselves, how and why do we expect others to?
\n\nWhy self-love- you make the world a better place and free the people in your lives when you love yourself.
\n\nWhat is *not self-love (hint… it is not selfish)
\n\nWhat is self-love…as I see it, it has 5 aspects self-awareness, self-discipline, self-care, self-compassion, self-acceptance
\n\nWhat you can do to cultivate love- cultivate self-awareness, be honest with yourself … for that you will need to learn self-soothing, and be compassionate with yourself… meaning hold your self to the highest standards but support yourself as you make mistakes along the way…
\n\nPs. Once… it’s a mistake … twice it’s a mistake… but 3 times it’s a pattern. If you keep making the same mistakes again and again… then you need to understand why and make efforts to change that.
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\n\nWhat can you give/be generous with?
\n\nWhat is *not generosity?
\nIf you expect anything in return- you have lost the benefits of that
\n-do it for your karmic account /God/Higher self account
How can you BEcome more generous?
\n\nI also answered some questions about “boundaries” and “toxic generosity” (not sure what that is but I answered it accordingly)
","summary":"","date_published":"2023-07-05T09:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/8d075b7d-7283-4772-af0f-cf8238415896.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":62116196,"duration_in_seconds":3882}]},{"id":"11e8610a-8f0a-40a5-b02d-38a09ffa3637","title":"Episode 22: Forgiveness .. it’s so hard…","url":"https://dr-saliha-afridi.fireside.fm/22","content_text":"If ‘forgiveness’ is hard for you, try saying the word ‘compassion’ or try saying ‘I want to heal’\n\nWhat is it and what is not\nWhy should we do it\nWhat the journey is like\nWhat is pseudo-forgiveness\n\nIt has been a long journey for me to come to the place where I see the value of this ongoing act for my own self…\n\nForgiveness is an act of self love\nIt is a practice of a generous heart\nIt is freeing\nIt is in service of an open and tender heart that loves and lives deeply\n\nWhat you practice gets stronger\nWhat you feed will grow\n\nWhat feelings and thoughts are you practicing and growing?","content_html":"If ‘forgiveness’ is hard for you, try saying the word ‘compassion’ or try saying ‘I want to heal’
\n\nWhat is it and what is not
\nWhy should we do it
\nWhat the journey is like
\nWhat is pseudo-forgiveness
It has been a long journey for me to come to the place where I see the value of this ongoing act for my own self…
\n\nForgiveness is an act of self love
\nIt is a practice of a generous heart
\nIt is freeing
\nIt is in service of an open and tender heart that loves and lives deeply
What you practice gets stronger
\nWhat you feed will grow
What feelings and thoughts are you practicing and growing?
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\n\nWe will all lose someone and something we love. This scares us and we run from acknowledging this. If we soften into it- we might know the depths of love.
We all have parts that have never known love. If we grieve the times and experiences where we lost these parts, and show them love and bring these parts to the light of love, we might know integrity and wholeheartedness.
We all are grieving the sorrows of the world. What humans are doing to each other, the planet, to animals, to the oceans… if we feel this grief, we might know what it means to be connected.
We all are grieving the loss of what we expected but did not recieve. This longing for a ‘home’, this need for belonging- it’s our inheritance and coded into our cellular and spiritual memory. If we tend to this grief we might know the duty we have to each other.
We all have an ancestral grief. We are not just a sum of our childhoods, but all the ancestors that came before us. If we acknowledge this grief, we might know that we have the power to heal the world.
I wanted to share a story with you guys today as to how intuition sometimes shows up in our lives.
\n\nIt can show up as a song, it can show up as the sun shining down in a specific moment, and even in the dreams of those close to us (also called Dream Tending).
\n\nHow has intuition shown up for you?
\n\nMany of you have seen my stories about breathing for eleven minutes and have asked me to share more details, so I want to share with you the full practice that I have built up to.
\n\nThe practice is done with intention and devotion, a place for me to connect with myself and my spirit, a place where I ask and open myself up to recieve.
\n\nI know that it’s a bit hard to commit these minutes to ourselves, but really keep at it…I promise you it’s worth the struggle.
\n\nLoneliness and it’s impact on our overall health
\n\nLoneliness is different from being alone, and it’s different from solitude.
\n\nLoneliness is not just painful but it is also lethal.
\n\nConnecting to ourselves - our bodies, our spirit, our values
\nConnecting to our tribe
\nConnecting to nature
\nConnecting to our community
These types of connections are antidepressants and anti-anxiety
\n\nConsider your time- how do you spend it? Are you deliberate and intentional about who you see and what you do?
\nAnd when you are there are you too busy distracted on social media or emails ?
We do a lot, but we aren’t experiencing a lot… and that experience = connection… and they connection is what we are all longing for …
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\n\nTo tease apart those two ideas… perfect and complete - is the task of a lifetime.
\n\nI am complete and I am progressing.
\nI am healed and I am healing.
\nI know and I am learning.
\nLife is now and we need a plan.
That delicate balance of these two ways of life… being and doing.
\n\nAnd life… it doesn’t start when things are all settled. It will never be ‘settled’… life is unsettling also. Life is imperfect also. Life has bad days also. That is life. I have arrived… and I don’t have to change anything about my life… this is what deep acceptance and surrender must feel like (??!) - it’s a very new feeling for me.
\n\nI also speak about intuition/listening to your inner guide/ wise adult/ authentic self/ trusting your decisions etc (which is all the same thing btw)
\n\nLet me know your thoughts… and questions ❤️
\n\nPS I mentioned Acceptance and Commitment Therapy- there is a level 1 workshop coming up by Dr Daniela Salazar in March see @lighthousearabia
\n\nI also mentioned JV - he is a therapist @lighthousearabia - he has workshops he does on Alchemy of Art and also on intuition.
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\nWhat is the shadow?
\nWhy do we project it?
\nWhy to do the work?
\nCan young people do shadow work?
\nHow to spot your shadow?
\nHow to integrate traits like greed and aggression?
Complexes and Shadow work
\n\n"Shadow work requires heroic willingness to take responsibility of oneself to grow up, and therefore be less demanding and expectant of others"
\n\nWhere are you demanding and expectant of others?
\n\n"Shadow work asks us to stop blaming others.
\nit asks us to take responsibility.
\nit asks us to move slowly.
\nIt asks us to deepen our awareness.
\nIt asks us to hold paradox.
\nIt asks us to open our hearts.
\nIt asks us to sacrifice our ideals of perfection.
\nIt asks us to live the mystery.
\nWe suggest that you relate to the shadow as a mystery rather than a problem to be solved or an illness to be cured"
Follow the trigger. The big reactions. The times you fight, flight, freeze or fawn.
\n\nFollow the people and the things that annoy you.
\n\nThey will take you to the energy pockets called complexes.
\n\nAs you learn about the complex, you will integrate more and more of the trapped energy in that complex into your consciousness...
\n\ngiving you more energy, more personal power. more freedom.
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\n\nWhat can you give/ be generous with?
\n\nWhat is *not generosity?
\nIf you expect anything in return- you have lost the benefits of that
\n-do it for your karmic account / God/ Higher self account
How can you BEcome more generous?
\n\nI also answered some questions about “boundaries” and “toxic generosity” (not sure what that is but I answered it accordingly)
\n\nOh and thank you for being so generous with your attention and love and support for me and I fumbled at the beginning of this live 😵💫
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\n\nWe use up ALOT of energy holding down our grudges against self and other…
\n\nAnd in the cancel culture we live in, it’s easy to become hypercritical of others and ourselves.
\n\nBut news flash: All human are fallible- yes even the hero’s and the gurus. And holding them, or yourself to an unrealistic standard of perfection hurts them, and you. No one is perfect- especially those that appear it.
\n\nWhere there is judgement, there can be no healing… and without healing there can be no tenderness … No openness… no joy... no learning.
\nWhere are you judging yourself?
\nWhere are you harsh to yourself?
\nWhere are you narrow and one sided about yourself or another?
\nWhat parts of yourself have you shunned and exiled? What parts do you need to re-member, re-collect, re-integrate through cultivating a loving and compassionate heart.
I know you are worried that you don’t deserve forgiveness bc that might mean you are letting yourself off the hook, or you are worried that you will do something wrong again.
\nI know you believe that punishing yourself is the only way you will act in accordance to your values.
Don’t worry, it’s not… trust yourself and know that when you forgive yourself and show up for yourself with love and compassion, curiosity and understanding that you will learn what you needed to learn from that experience …
\n\nSelf love begins with self-forgiveness and self understanding…
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\n\nWhat happens in your body/brain when you experience a loss
Mindset with which to approach the work of loss/grief
How to do the healing
Audio goes out in the last 2-3 mins - the second video is in IGTV where I continued
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\n\nFor example: An infant to a toddler to a young child- to an tween- to a teen- to a young adult- to an adult- to an wise elder all will go through a hero’s journey at each stage…
\n\nA journey in which they will be transformed by what they encounter.
\n\nI speak about what I believe is an alchemical process that happens in the “special world” at each stage of our development.
\n\nYou can apply this framework to anything in your life- your relationship, your professional life, your parenting journey, and your inner journey.
","summary":"I talk about the hero’s journey (from my earlier post) and how we all go through many cycles of this in our life.","date_published":"2023-03-08T08:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/c419c8b4-396e-41ed-af22-770cd8a640b4.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":59428300,"duration_in_seconds":3714}]},{"id":"15b44d91-e43b-41e8-b946-55d458385048","title":"Episode 8: About Forgiveness","url":"https://dr-saliha-afridi.fireside.fm/8","content_text":"Forgiveness .. it’s so hard…\n\nIf ‘forgiveness’ is hard for you, try saying the word ‘compassion’ or try saying ‘I want to heal’\n\nWhat is it and what is not\nWhy should we do it\nWhat the journey is like\nWhat is pseudo-forgiveness\n\nIt has been a long journey for me to come to the place where I see the value of this ongoing act for my own self…\n\nForgiveness is an act of self love\nIt is a practice of a generous heart\nIt is freeing\nIt is in service of an open and tender heart that loves and lives deeply\n\nWhat you practice gets stronger\nWhat you feed will grow\n\nWhat feelings and thoughts are you practicing and growing ?","content_html":"Forgiveness .. it’s so hard…
\n\nIf ‘forgiveness’ is hard for you, try saying the word ‘compassion’ or try saying ‘I want to heal’
\n\nWhat is it and what is not
\nWhy should we do it
\nWhat the journey is like
\nWhat is pseudo-forgiveness
It has been a long journey for me to come to the place where I see the value of this ongoing act for my own self…
\n\nForgiveness is an act of self love
\nIt is a practice of a generous heart
\nIt is freeing
\nIt is in service of an open and tender heart that loves and lives deeply
What you practice gets stronger
\nWhat you feed will grow
What feelings and thoughts are you practicing and growing ?
","summary":"If ‘forgiveness’ is hard for you, try saying the word ‘compassion’ or try saying ‘I want to heal’","date_published":"2023-03-01T08:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/15b44d91-e43b-41e8-b946-55d458385048.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":55489035,"duration_in_seconds":3468}]},{"id":"38d29f03-62ab-44c1-ab4e-df1ec832be50","title":"Episode 7: What is love?","url":"https://dr-saliha-afridi.fireside.fm/7","content_text":"What is love…\nI am not saying I have figured out the answer, but in this live I share what I know about love.\n\nSome of what I know so far about love:\nLove is not a feeling.\nLove is not demanding of the other person.\nLove is not forcing them on to your path.\nLove is tested in times of conflict.\nBeing loved by another doesn’t mean the experience will always feel good.\nLoving me doesn’t mean they will do as I say.\nLove is the most powerful healing agent on the earth.\nAnd love from another person, when you feel you don’t deserve it or are ashamed inside yourself is the most powerful healing experience.\n\nI talk in this live about\nWhat does acceptance look like?\n\nWhat gets in the way of us experiencing or giving love?\n\nCan you love a person and not accept their behavior?\n\nCan there be love without self love?","content_html":"What is love…
\nI am not saying I have figured out the answer, but in this live I share what I know about love.
Some of what I know so far about love:
\nLove is not a feeling.
\nLove is not demanding of the other person.
\nLove is not forcing them on to your path.
\nLove is tested in times of conflict.
\nBeing loved by another doesn’t mean the experience will always feel good.
\nLoving me doesn’t mean they will do as I say.
\nLove is the most powerful healing agent on the earth.
\nAnd love from another person, when you feel you don’t deserve it or are ashamed inside yourself is the most powerful healing experience.
I talk in this live about
\nWhat does acceptance look like?
What gets in the way of us experiencing or giving love?
\n\nCan you love a person and not accept their behavior?
\n\nCan there be love without self love?
","summary":"What is love…\r\nI am not saying I have figured out the answer, but in this live I share what I know about love.","date_published":"2023-02-22T08:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/38d29f03-62ab-44c1-ab4e-df1ec832be50.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":62397064,"duration_in_seconds":3899}]},{"id":"5dd4df0f-8174-4bf1-ae46-4a35e081e3c1","title":"Episode 6: Trauma And The Brain","url":"https://dr-saliha-afridi.fireside.fm/6","content_text":"“Trauma is not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside of you as a result of what happens to you”\n\n-What is trauma,\n-what are the different types of trauma, -what happens in childhood when we experience traumatic events\n\n\nwhat can we do as parents to protect our kids from intergenerational trauma\n\n\nI am doing these talks with a focus on childhood trauma (our childhood and our childrens)\n\nThis IG is one of many I want to do on this topic bc I really feel that the world is becoming more chaotic and the experience of life feels very traumatic for our nervous systems, unless we consciously are engaging in ways to heal, ground, soothe, and process all that we are encountering.","content_html":"“Trauma is not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside of you as a result of what happens to you”
\n\n-What is trauma,
\n-what are the different types of trauma, -what happens in childhood when we experience traumatic events
I am doing these talks with a focus on childhood trauma (our childhood and our childrens)
\n\nThis IG is one of many I want to do on this topic bc I really feel that the world is becoming more chaotic and the experience of life feels very traumatic for our nervous systems, unless we consciously are engaging in ways to heal, ground, soothe, and process all that we are encountering.
","summary":"What is trauma, what are the different types of trauma, what happens in childhood when we experience traumatic events, and what can we do as parents to protect our kids from intergenerational trauma?","date_published":"2023-01-18T15:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/5dd4df0f-8174-4bf1-ae46-4a35e081e3c1.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":53123133,"duration_in_seconds":2818}]},{"id":"c730bac1-03bf-44a1-a341-b02c3ef715be","title":"Episode 5: Caregiver Burnout","url":"https://dr-saliha-afridi.fireside.fm/5","content_text":"Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion. It may be accompanied by a change in attitude, from positive and caring to negative and unconcerned.\n\nMothers, healthcare workers, parents of special needs children, teachers, mental health workers, carers for elderly parents are just some of the people who are likely to experience chronic stress, and possibly burnout.\n\nThe experience is as if you have nothing left to give.\n\nBurnout is far more serious than being stressed… it is a total shutdown if your nervous system and it can last for many weeks, and months.\n\nI talk about ways you can start to move towards healing… bit by bit… moment by moment … it starts with you caring for and considering yourself along with all the other people you care for and consider. It’s not about choosing yourself only and neglecting others, but choosing yourself *also.\n\n(Also see my other Podcast episodes that talk about pathways to creating safety within your nervous system)\n\ninnerjourney #innerexperience #caregiverburnout #caregiversupport #caregiving #mentalhealthawareness #dubaiwellbeing","content_html":"Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion. It may be accompanied by a change in attitude, from positive and caring to negative and unconcerned.
\n\nMothers, healthcare workers, parents of special needs children, teachers, mental health workers, carers for elderly parents are just some of the people who are likely to experience chronic stress, and possibly burnout.
\n\nThe experience is as if you have nothing left to give.
\n\nBurnout is far more serious than being stressed… it is a total shutdown if your nervous system and it can last for many weeks, and months.
\n\nI talk about ways you can start to move towards healing… bit by bit… moment by moment … it starts with you caring for and considering yourself along with all the other people you care for and consider. It’s not about choosing yourself only and neglecting others, but choosing yourself *also.
\n\n(Also see my other Podcast episodes that talk about pathways to creating safety within your nervous system)
\n\nWidening the Window of Tolerance and healing the mindbody (Part 1 of 2)
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\n\n1) When you start to feel like everything you do is wrong.
\n2) You can't be yourself and, you're constantly compromising.
\n3) Your partner disappears for long lengths of time.
\n4) You feel drained and exhausted, and you avoid talking about issues.
\n5) When you feel the relationship is so one-sided that you become resentful.
If some of these warning signs are familiar to you, it doesn't mean that you need to pack up your bags and go, but you should definitely be aware that you are in an unhealthy relationship and begin thinking about how you could be in a healthier one.
\n\nAnything that is one-sided is unhealthy. A relationship is about 2 people – listening to each other, supporting each other, caring for each other. These are just some things to think about; let me know if you have any questions. #InnerJourney
","summary":"Anything that is one-sided is unhealthy. A relationship is about 2 people – listening to each other, supporting each other, caring for each other. These are just some things to think about - I explain more in the episode. Do let me know if you have any questions. #InnerJourney","date_published":"2021-04-25T12:00:00.000+04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/73f9111b-cbe4-4e30-8309-504b91fac660/f6ab5cc0-9033-454d-9905-a662fcb8c4b0.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":11539772,"duration_in_seconds":360}]}]}